5 ways to teach kids about healthy marriage

There are a couple of really good reasons for me to be thinking about love, marriage and all that mushy good stuff right now.  Just a few weeks ago Hubs and I celebrated our 8th anniversary. Ahhh I can’t believe it’s been 8 years. It’s hard to remember a time when he wasn’t by my side.

This year when I was thinking of all the ways I love this awesome partner and friend of mine something really struck me. This is what I want for my kids. I want them to be loved, respected and supported. I want them to search out and require a healthy love. For them to know how to be a spouse and to feel as loved as I do.

There are some little ways we can make sure our message of love is received loud and clear.


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5 ways to teach kids about healthy marriage

1. Make alone time a priority. That doesn’t have to mean a big night out on the town (although it can. ;)). Alone time can be as simple as having the kids play in their rooms before bed. We call it bedroom rest time and make it clear that it is as important for them as well as for us. It’s okay… and beneficial to say “Dad and I want some adult time. So we can spend time together by ourselves.” Let them know that husband-wife time is just as important to you as the time you spend with them.

2. Be affectionate. Cuddle, hug, hold hands and even kiss in front of the kids. They love hugs and snuggles… it’s an important part of the connection we make as parents. And it’s an important part of the connection we make as a couple.

3Tell the kids how great he is. Make a point to share what makes you swoon. I’m a big advocate of speaking up, especially in a positive way. If I notice that Hubs did something extra special I shout it out. It can be as simple as him helping with unexpected extra chore or a comment he made that brought a smile to your face. Remember to tell them how it makes you feel. (It’s also great if they overhear you actually giving the praise to your love.)

4. Disagree in front of them once in a while. I know, I know you’ve heard a hundred times that you should not fight in front of the kids. I agree with that. BUT we are not perfect and we do not agree all the time. A healthy marriage is not one that only consists of smiles and laughs. There are times when you don’t see eye to eye and letting the kids see a HEALTHY, calm disagreement will show them how to argue respectfully.

5. Give each other little gifts of love (and let the kids help). Make notes to put in his lunch box or under his pillow. While it will let the kids show him some love it also shows that putting a little smile on his face is important to you.

For our anniversary this year I gave Hubby a super cute custom love coupon book from Datevitation.com. Not only is the book super cute, it’s going to help us connect and pass on even more healthy marriage lessons. Oh a lesson plan just for Mom and Dad. :)

coupon book

Have you ever heard of Datevitation? It’s a fun company run by a husband-wife team that know a little something about romance.  The custom love coupon book library contains over 200 date ideas ranging from skydiving to stargazing to steamy adult-only activities (you may not want to let your little ones help put together this gift. ;)) The stick figure characters are adorable and you can edit the text on each page to make the coupons extra special. **UPDATE — Datevitation has added “boy” and “girl” characters, so you can now make a book for anyone you love!**


My favorite coupon pick was a hike for two. We have a great spot right by our house and an adult only hike sounds like the perfect way to spend a sunny Sunday morning.

Datevitation is offering all of you $10 towards your own Custom Love Coupon Book!!!! Just enter LESSONPLAN1o when you make a purchase in July. 


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  1. says

    I think go kart racing would make an awesome date!

    I love that you included disagreeing as a way to help kids know what a healthy marriage looks like. I loved that my parents were up-front about not agreeing on everything, but also very upfront about loving each other and being one hundred percent committed to the relationship.

  2. stefania cunningham says

    I love all their “stay in” ideas….we have 3 kids and it’s impossible for us to get out so these would be perfect!

  3. Ashley Winkler says

    My hubby is staying in a hotel for a week at a time every other week and this started last week so our time together is very special right now and would love a few date night fun ideas!

  4. says

    What a great list. I was recently thinking about wanting this for my kids as well. Also, when my middle child, 9, was around age 4, we discovered that our low level of PDA had not gone unnoticed by her and she had started making comments to grandparents about how we never kiss. Now…”never” was an exaggeration in her little brain and we reminded her of some times recently that she’d seen us kiss, but it was apparently a concern to her. It’s a reminder that they’re watching! And in case you’re wondering, we did make a point to up the PDA a little. =)

    Thanks for linking this with Marriage Minute!
    Amber @ Classic Housewife recently posted..Healthy Habits 1-22 ~ Slow and Steady

    • says

      Thank you Amber! What a great reminder and how awesome that she has grandparents that she can talk to so openly. I’m sure everyone is enjoying the increase in PDA ;)

  5. says

    I love this post and that fact that you took time to share how important it is to appreciate your co-parent and share that love with your kids. I love being reminded to give me man all that he deserves and to make it a part of life with kids too..

    … Both of my kids are very little still (2.5 and 8 months) but both are already able to have time on their own, either in their room before bed/when they wake up or in the kid room while the adults are working on something else. We both PLAY HARD with our kids, but I appreciate knowing that they can be with themselves too and that they understand, even at their young ages, that mom and dad have time for themselves and each other too. My toddler knows that the hall light goes out when mom and dad go to bed and she told me that makes her feel safe. I love it.

    • says

      LOVE IT! Thank you so much for sharing your story. What an awesome way to start out your family… playing hard together and respecting each others time and space.

  6. Varya @ littleartists says

    I love these points. What you wrote is very important for both teaching the children about marriage AND keeping the marriage alive. We love making each other small presents and our older daughter actively participates in gift-choosing!
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  7. Kelly S says

    Not having a personal example to follow (my parents were divorced when I was very young), I am happy my children can see the Hubs and I being a real couple. I like the idea of making a point to have alone time, and not just after the kids go to bed. Great post!


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