Keep Good Going: This is my story

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I am so excited to be teaming up with New York Life today. Their promise to Keep Good Going is unbelievably touching. After watching My Uncle’s Gift, spent half an hour watching videos of life experiences handed down from one generation to the next. (I'll understand if you get a little lost in the videos too!)

Keep Good Going couldn't have fallen into my lap at a better time. We've been talking a lot about what it means to be a work at home mom. For me it means 3 key things. It means I get to be home with my family, I get to write and I get to teach (parents instead of kids of course. :) ). And I get to do all that while contributing to our family income. It's a dream come true.

Like all careers (even the dream ones) there are challenges. One challenge is that because I'm at home sometimes I have to work when my family doesn't want me to work. (Yes this is true for those who are not home too.)

I was thinking hard about this and how to calm the rocky waters we've been fighting our way through. I was looking right into my 7 year old's big blue eyes when a thought popped into my head. How would I want Little M to feel in this same situation? Should she feel guilty about working? Should she wish she didn't WANT to work? Heck no!

I found a mirror, looked myself straight in the eye and doled out the advice I would have given to her. You are strong… and you are compassionate. You can make this work so that everyone is happy. You can work AND give them what they need, as long as you are open and honest.

I instituted our very first family conflict resolution meeting and we worked on a plan. I explained my need (and desire) to work. We talked about all the good that comes from my job and then we talked about what they need. We talked about them needing me to completely unplug once in a while, to have fun with them.

Will our solution be perfect? Nope. Will it need adjusting and readjusting? Of course! But I was heard and they were heard. The conversation is open.

I am a work at home mom...

Shortly after this all happened Little M came home from school with a sign up sheet for career day. She put it in my hand with a smile. "Mom, I want you to come to career day. I told everyone I want to be a blogger." My heart melted. "Well I kind of already am." (Of course. :) )

My hope for her is not that she becomes a writer or a blogger or even a work at home Mom. My hope is to pass on to her the ability to make her own dreams come true, by being honest with the people there to support her. My hope for her is that she will find herself doing exactly what she loves… just like I am.

In what ways do you Keep Good Going? Is it with work? Is it with a hobby you love? What are you passing on just by loving it yourself?

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Comments

  1. Nina says

    This is so sweet Jillian. I think talking about working in general is a little bit difficult for kids to understand. My four-year-old asks me why I work, and why I have to leave at a certain time, etc. I do my best to explain why I do what I do, and how it affects him as well.

    I did a little bit of work from home the first three years I was a mom, and although it worked out, it was a bit stressful for me. For one thing, I was a regular employee (not an entrepreneur or solo business owner) so I still had a boss to answer to. And my kid was so young at the time that I couldn’t just say “Oh I’m working, keep yourself occupied.”

    It worked out though. My job was conducive to it and my kid had the right temperament to make it work. Still, it’s hard, although I’d like to think he’s proud of his mom now for working hard at what I do.
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