Today’s parenting post is less about offering a solutions and more about asking for support.
A few weeks ago I spent all morning running around like a crazy person. I felt energized and beamed with the satisfaction that only a highly productive day can bring.
It was about 2 in the afternoon when a friend took one look at me and said. “You look tired”. BAM… it hit like a ton of bricks. I was tired. My legs were sore, my eyes heavy, my body ached. Wait. I didn’t feel like that minutes ago, so why now? Because someone said so? Because once those words hit my ears they became true?
I never recovered from exhaustion that day and I was bummed. The power of those words had changed the feeling of my entire day.
Later in the week we were at the dinner table. Big M rubbed his head, momentarily closing his eyes. “You look tired bud”. (And boy did he.)
Oh no! Did I just map out his evening? Did I just ensure that he would drag through bath time, story time and rest time? Because if those words were powerful enough to change my physical state, surely they would do the same for him. That is not how I want my words to make him feel.
So I’m challenging myself to remove that phrase from my vocabulary. It won’t be easy, it’s a bad habit I know. It’s important enough, though, to make the effort.
There are lot’s of sentences that can drag us down. Can you think of one that you use? Will you join me in banishing it?